But what is STRESS? Although there are many variations on the definition of what STRESS is, according to DavidJi , internationally recognized stress-management expert, corporate trainer, meditation teacher, and author of the critically acclaimed and Amazon #1 Bestseller, “destressifying,” and “Secrets of Meditation,” winner of the Nautilus Book Award:
“Stress is how we respond when our needs are not met.” – DavidJi
ARE YOUR NEEDS BEING MET?
Each and every one of our hearts has four basic needs: Attention: The need to be seen, noticed and to be recognized.
1.Affection: The need for physical touch, warmth, sweetness and kind glances.
2. Appreciation: The need for acknowledgment of our contribution, our value and our being.
3. Acceptance: The need for inclusion in a part of something bigger than yourself.
When these basic needs are not met, anxiety, sadness, detachment, pain, anger, depression, self-hatred and blame can begin to bubble up and manifest in our daily life. If we are mindful, they can be great indicators of when our needs are being met or when they’re not.
So, this week, let’s reflect on the four needs of the heart to guide us to understanding our feelings, our emotions and what it is that really might be bothering us. Let’s also remember that those around us have these heart-based needs, too! Here are three powerful – yet simple phrases that you can work with this week to raise someone else’s vibration, as well as your own! You are beautiful. You are doing a great job. I love you.
Try saying these phrases to those nearest and dearest to you and see if you notice any shifts or changes.